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February 8, 2010 – 11:47 am | by carlpetty1973
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My 5 Wives (2000)
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Plot: Monte Peterson, a rich real-estate developer, is going through his third divorce. His friend Ray has found a good site for a ski resort in Utah, and Monte comes to bid on the land, competing with local banker Preston Gates. Monte knew that, in order to take possession of the land, he would have to convert to the local religion, a sort of cross between Mormonism and Amish (no smoking, no drinking, bigamy and simple living/dressing encouraged). What he didn’t know was that the deed to the land also included the three wives of the deceased former owner. He also buys another plot, and the two wives that come with it, in part because they are much better cooks. Gates, meanwhile, wants the land to build an Indian casino, and is mixed up with some mobsters. There’s a trip to Las Vegas, a female-empowerment seminar, a jailbreak, and other complications too absurd to mention.
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Should my wife be taking my side, or her sister's side?
About two months ago, we had a situation in our household that got pretty messed up.
My wife and I live with my in laws, and her younger sister. The sister is 23. I am 35.
My sister in law and I both have INFJ personality types. I will first admit that I have some serious psychiatric problems. I have issues with anger. I have issues with OCD, anxiety, severe depression, and other things, as well. My sister in law also has some major issues, but I am not sure if she realizes it. She is in therapy. So am I.
Today, my wife told me that her sister had told her therapist about the following incident:
About two months ago, I was talking on the phone with a Christian marriage counselor. My sister in law sometimes raises her voice to family members. She was agitated at my wife, and so my sister in law said the F word loudly. I was embarrassed. I don’t think the counselor heard her say it.
So when I got off the phone a minute later, I was asking what the problem was. I asked my wife what was going on. We were in a different room. Her younger sister overheard me, and she yelled at me something like "I was yelling at her because she wouldn’t leave." I got angry, and ran in there. My sister in law is a petite woman, standing maybe 5′6", weighing maybe 130. I stand 5′10", weighing 260. And I am a male, so I am larger than she is.
We got into a little verbal argument for a moment, but my wife broke up the quarrel.
Later on, my sister in law told her therapist that she was scared. Now I feel like I am the bad guy. I was talking to my wife, and I asked her if she thought I was justified in my response to her sister- she said no. Now, I am angry. I feel resentful towards both my wife and my sister in law.
Who is in the right here?
Should be taking your side….I mean, it is your wife
Tourettes Guy | Feb 05, 2010
Chicks stick together, and we cant change that
Ray L | Feb 05, 2010
She should have 2 sides. Afterall she is a 3d object, right?
Dam | Feb 05, 2010
Your wife should be taking your side.
thelazynarakid | Feb 05, 2010
well first of all ur wife doesnt have to chose u becuz ur her husband or her sister cuz shes her sister shes on the side of the one she thinks is right!
Peaches S | Feb 05, 2010
she should be taking your side , just because she’s her sister … pfftt that’s so unjust !
I Have A Crush Too ! | Feb 05, 2010
I believe your wife should be on ur side..
preeti | Feb 05, 2010
She should take your side but you should understand if she thinks you were wrong.
stiffkittens | Feb 05, 2010
Don’t know who’d right… But I can say… who’s WRONG…
You ARE! You haven’t you done what was necessary - to be living alone.
That way… who cares what anyone wants…
at 35 - you should have your act together enough to make your own way.
stanleys_2001 | Feb 05, 2010
no matter what she should always be by your side…
Robbie | Feb 05, 2010
Normally I would say your wife should take your side. However, sisters fight. We yell and scream at each other and have our whole lives. You should not have gotten involved. You put your nose into the middle of something that you should have stayed out of until your wife asked for your in put or help.
Wanda | Feb 05, 2010
Your wife should probably be on her husbands side, but I can’t imagine it is easy for her being stuck between two people she loves/two very high maintenance personalities. Maybe you guy’s should think about moving, your living situation sounds horrid.
Shawtty | Feb 05, 2010
You right about coming to your wife’s rescue when you heard the argument. About the verbal argument with your SIL, I don’t know what transpired. If she told the therapist she was scared, then that’s something she has to work out with her therapist. Since she already has issues, when she blew up at her sister and you came in angry, that might be what she’s referring to. Apologize if you think you made her scared. But who knows, she might have blown her stack unnecessarily at your wife and realized she was wrong (though I don’t know what your wife said to her to get her all riled up). I’m not a therapist so I don’t know what her deal is but you were fine to check on your wife.
Lemon Drop Martini | Feb 05, 2010
Since I didn’t hear the argument, I don’t know. If your wife thought what you did was over the top, how can you expect her to take your side against her sister, especially if you are threatening enough to scare people.?
When a lot of people are crammed into a house together, things are bound to get tense now and then. No one needs to be using every little thing as an excuse to yell and get mean. If your SIL gets under your skin, I suggest that you avoid her and thus avoid confrontation. I will bet money that your wife’s parents will be relieved when you all move out.
bandaid_46 | Feb 05, 2010
You and your wife need you own place so that you can have your private discussions.
celeste d | Feb 05, 2010
You feel like your’e the bad guy because you were wrong for your behavior. I bet if I was her and a dude who weighed 260lbs started running at me I’d be scared too. She was merely stating her feelings t her therapist. If you had to question your wife about whether or not you were justified then that means you already know you were wrong, otherwise you wouldn’t be questioning it.
It doesn’t sound like your wife is taking her sister’s side. She merely answered your question about her own opionion of your behavior. She shouldn’t have to lie to you and tell you you were right if she honestly doesn’t believe that. It would perhaps be her taking her sisters side if she told you that you neeeded to leave and she was going to stay with her sister, but that is not what is happening here. She was just telling you how she felt and you are overeacting because you didn’t like her answer.
Leila | Feb 05, 2010
It’s good that you and your sister in law are in therapy, and this is probably a situation you should address with your therapist more than people here. That being said, I have to say I understand why you might feel a little persecuted in this situation. You do have a right to speak to your wife. THe sister swearing while you were on the phone was unnecessary and rude, as was her yelling into your conversation with your wife after. However, it seems unnecessary for you to run into the room the sister was in, interrupting your conversation with your wife and exacerbating the situation with the sister. Given that you acknowledge your anger problems, her age, and your size difference, it’s not unreasonable that she was afraid. This sounds like a very appropriate thing for her to discuss with her therapist. Hopefully it helped her learn some things about herself; situations such as this is how we do that, and they’re part of the reason people go to therapists. Finally, I think in retrospect and in a calm state of mind you should probably be able to admit that you may have overreacted. I understand why you might feel like your wife should take your side (she is your wife, after all), but I think you’re off base with this one. I have sisters, and while I love the person I’m going to marry very much, there is a very special and protective relationship between sisters that nobody can mess with. Because he loves me so much, I know he would never do anything to damage his relationship with my sisters (he has put up with some crazy things with them!!) or put me in the middle of something. Sounds like this is something to learn from and try to mend and move on. Good luck!
CuriosityMae | Feb 05, 2010
Who’s in the right?
CertaInly not the guy with anger issues who professes to know what someone is talking to their therapist about.
Me | Feb 05, 2010
MG… you say you ran in there… did you run in there like a ragin bull or just ran in there and argued from a distance? Why exactly was her sister scared? This does not sound like the whole story? And if her sister said she was scared, I mean no woman wants her sister scared of her husband.
Also make sure you know what your wife is saying: Just because she told the truth about what she thought of your behavior does NOT mean she doesn’t support you. Sounds like she was giving you an objective answer and you may have taken it too personally? Does that sound possible?
Cackle | Feb 05, 2010
it is about time to move out with your family and have your own place, don’t you think?
MJ | Feb 05, 2010
Living with in laws is not a good idea.
Get you and your wife a place of your own
or she will never grow up.
Then your wife will see that it is childish to stay in the mess where she grew up.
leah g. | Feb 05, 2010
Sister-in-law’s (SIL) side: Her comment to your wife was uncalled for under normal circumstances. The only caveat is that she has ‘major problems’ and is in therapy. Presumably she cannot control all of her outbursts or her anger. Quite possibly she over-reacted.
Your wife’s side: She lives with her parents, her ill sister and her ill husband. Quite a juggling act.
I am sure she loves you all, and as most women do, they want all their family members and her life to be peaceful. Quite a juggling act.
Your side: you have (self-admitted) problems that include anger and anxiety. You are also juggling your marriage in your in-laws home and also have to deal with your SIL’s unpredictable behavior as well as your own. While you were on the phone, you heard your wife being yelled at. Like any good husband you wanted to protect her and defend her. During a private discussion with your wife to see how she was, your SIL butted right in. You were both angry (SIL who has control and obvious anger issues) and you for being interupted, and tapping into the anger you were feeling in regard to your SIL yelling at your wife.
So, inasmuch as you have problems, sometimes the first feeling of anger is normal. Someone was bothering /upsetting your wife.
What you should look at is degree. Your wife feels you over-reacted (mostly because she craves peace). She thinks only on that level. Your SIL’s is acting the way she always does.
So, that leaves you. If you realize why you were angry, and can see that on one level your SIL has her illness to blame, then the degree or level of your anger might be too much now that it is over.
Now, understand your normal responses can sometimes be mixed up with your extreme reactions. You realize you are biggeer, and stronger than the women in your house. You feel bad that you have intimidated your SIL by your size and anger. You did not intend to do that. You only wanted to defend your wife as needed, have a private discussion and make sure your wife was ok.
Hopefully by understanding what went on and each person’s side, you can let go of your resentment. The only thing that should now linger is that your sister-in-law was afraid of you and you meant no harm. Is there something you can now do about that?
Peabee | Feb 05, 2010
In all actuality, the conversations your S.I.L. has with her therapist are between her and her therapist. If she felt scared and told her therapist then that’s how she felt and that’s what she said. Getting mad at your wife isn’t going to solve the problem. You say yourself you are bigger than her and you were mad, you also say you both have emotional problems, so I’m not entirely sure why you are shocked that she felt threatened when you went in the room and started yelling at her. If you ask me, I think a large part of your problems stem from living with your in laws. You may still have emotional issues, but at least you would have your own space and you wouldn’t be butting heads all the time if you found your own place to live…
Girliegirl | Feb 05, 2010
MOVE
OUT
Rachel | Feb 05, 2010
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